How social is social media ?

There was a time in our lives that going for a party or hanging out with friends actually involved having fun, exchanging meaningful information or simply just hanging out. In those days, making new friends actually involved speaking to someone about a topic or idea and being able to understand if you need the person in your life as a friend. In those days, you would need to pick up the phone to call a friend just to check up on them and from the tone of the person's voice you would know if he/she was okay. In those days, children were engaged in learning and developmental activities which included writing on a chalk board or playing fun games such as Hide and Seek with other children in their age group. Do you remember?

Beautiful Social Media Heart Collage by Kathleen Donovan on Flickr.com

According to Wikipedia, "Social media is the interaction among people in which they create, share or exchange information and ideas in virtual communities and networks". 

Some of us spend the entire day behind the laptop only to wonder where time went. Many of us find it difficult to have meaningful face to face conversations. Some folks are very interesting and inspiring on Facebook or Twitter but are the opposite of their online persona when you actually meet them. Can you still look a friend or stranger in the eye when speaking to him or her without flinching. I came across this video titled 'Look Up' - A spoken word film for an online generation written, performed & directed by Gary Turk. The message of the video is very clear. It talks about the need to drop that smart phone and look up. Don't let your life pass you by. It is a very inspiring video and it was the stimulus I required for this post. Ironically, the video has been viewed by over 27 million people on Youtube and I hear that it has also gone viral on Twitter but I am not going there....lol.

Facebook Connection Social Network Media by Simon on Pixabay.com

The effect of the surge in the use of social media platforms can be construed as both beneficial or detrimental to personal interests. However, the degree of satisfaction or detriment perceived from social media should be self assessed. Please do not assume that I am against social media. I am not a hypocrite. Without social media, I would't dream of blogging neither would you be reading this post at your convenience. I am of the school of thought that everything should be used in moderation.

This is an advanced age and social media helps one to become aware of activities happening worldwide without actually leaving the four walls of your room or office. For instance, the ongoing case of the teenage girls kidnapped in Chibok, Borno state, Nigeria by Boko Haram. The use of social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter and Instagram has helped spread the word especially the #Bringbackourgirls campaign. The united voices of concerned Nigerians are being heard on a global perspective through these platforms and hopefully these girls would be found and rescued soon. We all have these girls in our prayers. It just occurred to me that Boko Haram claims to be against Western education or Westernisation but how come the leader records videos to send out the group's messages? I know that the first video tape recorder was invented by Charles Paulson Ginsburg (a Westerner). In addition, how come these so called videos are created in a form that is compatible with Youtube and other social media platforms?

To be continued.

Photo Credits

Kathleen Donovan created the beautiful Social Media Heart Collage Flickr.com
Simon on Pixabay.com

Oh for crying out loud; were you born a Pathological liar???

Courtesy Quickmeme

The moment we met and became friends, I thought I had finally found that special friend. I felt you were full of life and interesting. I had so much fun listening to all the stories you had to share about YOU. I even thought we shared the same values and interests. Besides, I wanted to know more about you, hence I saw nothing wrong with you having a lot to say all the time.

Eventually, I realised you cared little about my experiences and you always sought to be the centre of attention. Now for someone who spoke a lot about yourself, you seemed to have a lot of stories and life experiences which were not commensurate to your age, status and appearance.

My feelings had drastically changed from fascination to suspicion and then to revulsion. What goes on within that little head of yours? Has your inferiority complex mutated to superiority complex? Or perhaps you have watched too many Hollywood movies and you are now living in your fantasies which explains why you not only deceive others; you also deceive yourself!!

Well, liar liar pants on fire.....were you born a Pathological liar or is it your alter ego?

My favourites things: Number One

I woke up this morning with a melodious tune on my mind. It was the song "my favourite things" performed by Julie Andrews on The Sound of Music. Interesting movie. Wonderful song. The first verse goes like this:

Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens 

Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens

Brown paper packages tied up with strings

These are a few of my favorite things!

Well, this is not a music blog so if you want the complete song lyrics, check here.

My favourite things. This song has given me the inspiration to start writing about some of my favourites. Yes, Diamonds are every woman's favourite. I love Chanel No. 5 parfum, Christian Louboutin shoes, Armani jeans, Louis Vuitton hand bags.......

Newton's Laws of Motion applied in LIFE......

Physics hmm. It was and has never been my favourite subject. During my school days, I realised that having a sound knowledge of the laws of Physics or even memorizing them was never enough. The funny thing is that when you are presented with an exam question, you look at the question carefully and in your mind, you think you understand the question. Besides, you are fairly conversant with the aspects of the physical law on which the question is based. Cool. Okay. Why haven't you solved the question already? lol. The poor results in physics were as a result of students inability to apply the laws during problem solving. Anyway, thank God I didn't not fail Physics.

Some days ago, it occurred to me that I haven't heard anything of Newton's laws of motion, Ohm's law or Coulomb's law in a very long time. So...erm...why did I study physics at school when I obviously do not need it to earn a living? (I am only speaking for myself o) It's not like my manager would ask me why payment has not been received for an invoice and I will respond to her by quoting Newton's Third law of motion. Maybe my response would be thus,  "Ma'am, according to Newton's Third law of motion, when one body exerts a force on a second body, the second body simultaneously exerts a force equal in magnitude and opposite in direction to that of the first body. Therefore, we would follow up with the client with a force that relates to the amount of money owed and he would certainly pay for the invoice". LMAO. That would be disastrous to any career!!!

Anyway, what I intend to do with this post, is to bring some of the popular laws of physics to life. FYI, I am not trying to be Miss Smarty Pants. I am just trying to have FUN by proving that knowledge is power and learning something new is never irrelevant.

Her Look was Deception

She looked magnificent; like a precious work of art created by no man’s hands. 

The very lines which expressed her perfect curves and edges were defined without a fault. I could use my finger tips to trace the glorious outlines of her curvaceous physique. I wondered how many crunches a day she endured. Was she into Pilates or Yoga? Or was her body a result of intense Cardio. Who created this woman? Every man that glanced at her wanted her.  Some even fell in love with her by merely looking at her. Any woman that stared her loathed her; because being like her seemed like an impossible feat. She smiled at me. Her stare was contagious. This woman was outright PERFECTION. I took another look. This time I noticed something else; her skin. Oh Yes, the colour of her skin was like a glow from heaven. Not a single blemish on her gleaming skin. My skin had never been like hers: perfect. What on earth would I have to endure to look this HOT?

Another page turns.

I see her again. Wait a minute, it isn’t her. This woman looks superior to the first. Where are these women created? They have the money. They have the talent. They’ve got the look. Life isn’t fair….lol. I must admit it. There is no doubt about it. I fell for her. I wanted to be like her. I wanted to feel exactly the way she felt staring at me. Yes, I fell for the woman in the MAGAZINE…oops.

Michelle Pfeiffer admits she was a member of a cult that believed in human survival without food or water.

Hollywood actress, Michelle Pfeiffer has revealed in  The Sunday Telegraph's Stella Magazine that during her early years in Hollywood, she was once a member of a "cult" that practised Breatharianism. Just in case you are wondering, breatharianism is a form of lifestyle in which the believers claim that food and water are not necessary, and that humans can be sustained solely by energy in sunlight (Wow).

The 55 years old actress who has acted in several block busters including Scarface and Batman Returns said she became involved with a young couple that practised breatharianism. At 20, she was just starting out in Hollywood when she met the "very controlling couple". They taught her about the lifestyle and obligated her to pay guidance fees (and they knew she was trying to earn a living..***hiss). During that period, she was unaware of the fact that she was in a cult. It was actually her FIRST husband that opened her eyes (yes, he made her shine her eye well well).

He Saved her from the "Cult"

Her first husband, Peter Horton had been cast in a movie about the Moonies ( a Cult led  by Rev Moon Sun-myung’s of the Unification Church). She was assisting her then husband with his research on that particular cult. According to Telegraph, the moment of Self realization occurred when they were talking with an ex-Moonie !!!

Anyway, thank God she was saved. She stopped practising Breatharianism and is now a healthy vegitarian. Concerning Breatharianism, I am not going to judge. There have been several reported cases of persons dying during their attempt of the Breatharian diet. However, the lifestyle still has it's old faithfuls who have been practising the diet successfully. 

The lesson to be learnt from Michelle Pfeiffer is that we need to always look before we leap. No matter how desperate you are to be successful in your chosen paths of endeavours, be focused and have a very strong mind. Do not allow desperation make you to be easily manipulated into doing things you would naturally have been against. The fact that some people can survive on only Sunlight does not mean you would. In my opinion, Life is a risk but some risks are not worth taking. You decide!!

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Welcome to November......The end of the year is fast approaching, what charitable deed have you done this year??

Hurray, it's November. Welcome to the new month. Can you believe it is just about 7 weeks to Christmas? Yes, the end of the year is fast approaching. I believe November would prove to be a very special month for everyone. Let's not forget that it is also the month of thanksgiving.

I am absolutely sure that a lot of you made resolutions at the beginning of the year. What percentage of those resolutions have you accomplished? I advice you go back to your list and reflect on it. 

Ask yourself what you have done this year? 

What do you have left to do? 

What have you failed to do? and why did you fail? 

Importantly, did your resolution list contain only things you wanted to accomplish for yourself? What about things you would do for others? Did you include Charity in your list? If you realised that your list was a little bit self oriented, don't beat yourself up. It is not too late to make a difference in someone's life.

Get Ready!!!.....Partial Solar Eclipse on Sunday (November 3rd)

Based on the predictions of the National Space Research and Development Agency (NASRDA), Nigeria would experience a partial solar eclipse on Sunday, November 3, 2013. Exciting, right?? 

To be frank with you, I don't know why I am so excited about this (maybe because the last solar eclipse witnessed in Nigeria was in 2006).

Snake Therapy....Do you want a full body python massage???

We love to pamper ourselves every now and then and besides, there is nothing wrong with spending a day at the spa after a long work week (especially if you can afford it).

Each spa has it's own unique blend of massage therapies. It could be Swedish, Hot stone, Chinese, Thai, Deep Tissue, Erotic Full body massage, Acupressure, etc. However, no matter the adopted technique or approach, one thing is for sure; you would definitely feel relaxed.

When you make efforts towards your relaxation, you eliminate stress and insomnia ( reduces blood pressure), you increase your chances of having good health, your blood circulation is increased and muscle tension is reduced. Consequently, you become more productive as your energy levels tend to increase as well as your concentration.....impressive, right?  So how far are you willing to go to feel relaxed? Would you replace the therapeutic hands of a professional masseuse with crawling SNAKES?? Hmmm....

The snakes are said to provide immense relaxation. Smaller snakes are used for lighter massages while bigger snakes are used for deep tissue massage.

"The movement of the snakes and the adrenaline triggered by fear is said to have a positive impact on the customer’s metabolism." -Washington Post

The question is, are you brave enough to pay for a snake massage??

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Ever heard of the Tweeting Bra???

This is no joke. The Tweeting bra really exists.

Whenever, the clasps are unhooked, a tweet is sent via the registered Twitter account. I guess a lot of male folks would be glad to purchase this as a gift item for their spouses ***wink. 

Cholera.....what do you know about it?

A few days ago, I heard there was an outbreak of Cholera in Lagos. Sadly, some death cases have even been reported. It's really unfortunate that this horrible disease which had been claiming lives in Northern Nigeria has now been discovered in Lagos. However, I was wondering why lives are still being lost to this awful bacterial disease considering the fact that there has been significant advancements in medical treatments and techniques.

Honestly, the only info I knew about Cholera was exactly what I learnt from Integrated Science class while in Secondary school ; Cholera is a water borne disease. That was all I knew about Cholera. Anyway, we have to guard ourselves against this pandemic and believe me, ignorance should not be an excuse. I did a little research about the disease and I have highlighted the details below as simple as it can be and sufficiently suited to the interested Layman. Let's leave the detailed information for the Doctors, yeah? As we all know, knowledge is power!! So please read on-I am no saint but I believe this may help save a life (or even lives...lol).

Why do women hate each other?

I am definitely not the only one who has noticed this so called Woman to Woman kpalava. I wonder why we can't stand each other. It's so bad that when I have to go to a meeting or make a call, I hope its a man that would be at the other end. Do men have these issues too? I doubt!!

Let me paint this awkward situation for you: you are a girl, okay? yourself and your spouse are hanging out in the evening at a nice spot. His friend comes around and  brings his woman along. Courtesy demands introductions and all that stuff. The two guys begin the usual discussion- football, business and politics. The girls? OMG. The girls are either pretending to be engrossed on a non-existing BBM chat....AWKWARD!! If its not BBM, then its WhatsApp or they'll be playing a stupid game on their smartphones. Some of us don't use that tactic; we form being engaged in what the boys are discussing..nodding and laughing just to avoid a conversation with the OTHER girl.

Another awkward moment is when the boys step out to order Suya or Fish n chips at the barbecue stand. This is when the girls realise that the environment is beautiful. Especially if it is by the lagoon. Not a single word would be spoken...I wonder why? 

The end of Procrastination

OMG. I created this blog site a long time ago and apparently, I haven't written a single post. I hadn't forgotten about the blog but sh*t happens, right? That's the hand work of our very good friend called "Procrastination".

Procrastination is a thief of time and a good friend that I would love to hate. So from now, I denounce you as a friend . I hate you utterly. Be gone from my life and never ever ever ever ever return. Procrastination, I command you to die now by fire....LMAO. I wish it was that simple jare. Anyways, seriously speaking, a lot of us tend to put things off till the last minute. We even neglect things we love because we feel it is less important. To be sincere, we are so busy with work and life that we assume it is not the right time to do that "less important thing". Look at me for instance, I love to write, I used to draw (even had perfect scores in Fine arts while at secondary school) but this is the first thing I am writing for myself in 3 years (apart from the boring reports and memos of you know where...smh) and I haven't even sketched a pear or an apple in YEARS...pathethic right??

So why do we do it? We have 24 hours a day. 8 hours spent at work or something like that and lets not forget about 5 hours spent in traffic (Lagos life abi). There is nothing wrong with devoting at least 30 mins a day to yourself. Call it "Me time". Indulge in yourself. Spice up your life. Make yourself happy. You deserve it. So please don't put things off till tomorrow- tomorrow never ends.

From now, tell your self that you will do today what you NEED to do today. Have a to do list (this is much easier as a lot of us have Ipads and Smartphones), prioritize your daily tasks (both official and unofficial), find that spark that motivates you to complete projects (it could be anything but please stay away from coffee...lol), and so on and so forth. The power to beat procrastination lies in your mind. Once you identify the thief, deal with it anyway that suites you.

Don't spend your entire life building another person's dream!!!

Do it now

Helpful links:
Mindtools
Stop Procrastinating